Shi:
All right. Back here in segment two of Values Matter week. And right now we wanna talk about our personal values and our experience with discovering what they were and then rearranging them.
Kay:
Now, we had already established business values that–before we attended a conference called “Date With Destiny” with Tony Robbins, and we had done this for our business–we had worked with our team and we’re gonna talk about that in the next segment. We had established them for the business and then going to hear more about personal values and how they play out in your life at “Date With Destiny.” Shy, I don’t know about you, but I was kinda like, “Duh, like how we have not done this?”
Shi:
Oh, totally. I knew that it was important. And I know we were both excited to get to that conference, “Date With Destiny.” Let us just paint a little bit of the picture here for you. If you’ve seen “I Am Not Your Guru” on Netflix, that is the conference that they follow Tony through. It’s a six day conference, it’s in West Palm Beach. We have been so excited to go and we kept talking about leading up to “Date With Destiny.” Who are the women that walk in to “Date With Destiny,” right? We did a lot of personal growth and development to get us into that door so that we could be in the right space and it was six intense days. You’re dancing all day. You’re up late. You’re digging deep. It’s freezing. It’s this whole hodgepodge of experience while you’re there. But you get immersed in the material and the experience so that you can be most open to talking about what those personal values are for you now and being in the right state and going through the right process in order to discover those and then getting to decide, “Well, what is the person I wanna be and the goals that I wanna achieve? And do my current values allow me? Are they in alignment with that? Do they allow me to achieve that outcome?” And that was really huge for us. And then it’s so fun to pick your new values, come on.
Kay:
It is such a good time. You get the opportunity to dig deep and dive in and figure out, “Okay, well, if my values dictate how I act, how do I want to act? How do I want myself to show up in the world, no matter what, right?” Defaulting to the behavior that you’re looking for, the behavior that you want and being in this environment at the “Date With Destiny” conference. I mean, gosh, it was so fun. I literally danced my toenails off.
Shi:
Yes, you did. That is a true statement.
Kay:
A literal statement. Very, very literal. That happened, true story. But the values that we sat forward have really helped. So my five values are vibrancy, grace, flow, presence, and love. So five values now that are at the top of my list, that help me to personally act out in a way that I’m proud of.
Shi:
It’s helped me transform as well. You know, as I designed the character of who I wanted Shila to be and what I think my potential can be at that conference and thinking into that. It actually took me about a year later to take everything we did there and distill it into the words that I really liked, but I kept working on it through the year. And mine came out to be eight and I put them on a values vision board. In fact, both of us did, and we made these boards during another Tony Robbins conference, but that’s a story for another time. But mine, I put mine on a board and in the center of the board I said, “Let your values dictate your decisions.” And then I’ve made mine into a little mantra, so I’ll say it for you all so you can hear the values that I hope to make all my decisions through and that’s to “Be heart-centered and active to learn and grow, and articulate. Be energetically right and appreciate experience, value others, be here now.”
Kay:
Okay. I am feeling the energy from that. Oh my goodness, how fun! I love that you made that.
Shi:
Yeah. You’re actually doing the hand motions together. You can’t see it, but there are hand motions and we were doing this.
Kay:
Oh my gosh. Well, I love it. And being able to now see these values act out more so within our lives, over the course of the past–now it’s been almost–three years since that conference has been amazing. And sometimes they’ve acted out in ways that we’re not proud of, but most of the time they’re in ways that do benefit who we wanna show up as in the world. And so we would highly encourage you to, first off, if you can attend a “Date With Destiny” or an “Unleash The Power Within” event with Tony Robbins, it’s absolutely worth it. And spend some time working on your own personal values, put that list out. What are the things that you value? And if there are things on the top of that list that maybe are having you act in a way in your life. Remember that we’re not talking about what you want to value, but what you actually value. If something in your life isn’t going the way that you want, chances are you can fix it with a repositioning or reframing of your values. So next up, we’re gonna talk a little bit more about how values play out in your business.
